A girl in her early 20's living in a town in India all set to marry her boyfriend, but hey you know what the boyfriend just found out that she was too lame to be with her since he has studied in United Kingdom now! So what would a normal girl do, cry, cry and maybe cry all day and all night. But it is not necessary to be crying after a guy leaves you for his own selfish reasons, this is what Queen has taught y of so many girls out there.
Yes, Rani did cry but very soon she also realizability she had a better life out there, a life which she would live for herself and nobody else! I am not writing a review for Queen, it is something I don't feel like doing. This blog post is for all those Rani's who are out there confused and trapped in expectations from parents, peer pressure from relatives to get married and lousy boyfriends who would break up for any effing reason.
So, one fine day in my hostel every girl either was facing a relationship issue or a parental crisis. This is quite a common scene in most of the hostels with girls over 23. Our age group is so confused with what the society wants us to do that we almost forget that we have a life our own too
In one incident a girl was asked to wear a saree and meet the guy holding a tray of tea cups for his family. THEN the guy and girl were asked to go in to speak to each other in privacy - a typical Vivaah movie scenario. What was annoying was that the guy instead of speaking to her was busy on his cell phone and he though the girl was a small townie just because she was speaking to him marathi and not English. So while the girl was in a saree and preferred to speak in her mother tongue, it did not mean she never wore gowns and had no idea what English was.
Quite contrary to the last one, in this incident the guy and girl were in a relationship before marriage. After two years the girl joined a multi national company, went to social parties, was outright and modern. The guy dumped her one fine day, reason, she was too ambitious to have a family with her. The guy did not even know the plans of this gi r like who wanted to quit job after marriage, have kids, decorate a garden and cook good food.
So the already confused woman is now stuck in between being ambitious and modern or traditional and family oriented! Cos surely even if she is capable of a balance, the men aren't capable to see that. It is not that all men are like that, there are a few dreamy fairy tale guys who exist, just that they take a lot of time to show up! So I love the part where Rani goes on her honey moon alone, does everything that she dreamt with him alone and eventually she has more fun. Our lives are also good with the dreams with our guys, but have we ever thought of dreaming for ourselves alone?
Why do we always need a man to comfort us? Like Rani can't we just find our own selves? Why can't we get thin and diet for our health and not a guy who wants to see us set, why not just cut your hair as you want and not stop cos your guy likes longer hair, why stop dreaming of traveling the world alone just cos he dreams of staying home? Each one of us needs to open up the gates. Just close your eyes and imagine your life without your dominating and make chauvinistic boyfriend or husband around, life might just get much more interesting. And yeah never forget the end of Queen - cos it's the one that gives hope to all those women who are either ditched for being too fair or too dark, too ambitious or too bland, too beautiful or too ugly and too simple or too modern, never take a man back who is too egoistic to love you and too selfish to just to live himself and no one else... you are better off without these judgmental freaks, wait for your hero he will come, even if a late entrant, he will be there soon!!
This blog post is not a gender equality or women empowerment
, it is simply for all the women who need to remain stronger and use the break ups and heart aches as a way to grow more in life..
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