27 and single..!!

"It's the loneliness that creeps in, some ignore it, some let it get inside their heads and some face it."

The dynamics of the correct marriage age in Indian community has been changing from time to time. The modern thinking society of the metros has single women of more than 30 years of age while the conservative village folks want their daughters married by the age of 18-20. There are various categories formed because of this wide range of "marital ages".

Some women prefer getting married soon and having a family of their own. I respect them because managing a house for free is the toughest job anyone could do. Some women prefer to make a mark in their chosen field of career. They want to travel the world, explore themselves and marry when they feel they have lived the bachelor life enough. They are the women who have proved that they can be nothing less than men.
The problem comes with the women who cannot decide on what path to chose. I might sound rude, but there are women who are stuck in between, and stuck very bad. They are confused with life and soon end up being frustrated as well. Right now there will be readers smirking at my statements. But observe closely, there are women who complaint a lot, have a wrecked love life and nothing in their job is ever pleasant.

These symptoms are quite evident after the girl is single and 27. The girl wants to make a career, but after struggling for 3-4 years they have nothing but a tormenting job in hand. They either have a bad past or have never fallen in love. Many women do want to go out in the open wearing shorts but have a narrow thing coming in between when the relationship comes in. Ofourse you wont find a saint in the MNC corporates or something who would love you with no intentions of even touching you! Hence, one of the reasons for a heartbreak with slow or no moving on. So, no moral support from anybody results into another jiff.
The title 27 and single is no good if you are jobless and not even close to anythin like benefit friends. Imagine, you are alone on a saturday night and there is nobody with you. Your friends are either with their boyfriends or husbands, your siblings with their friends and your parents enjoying old age romance. Who will not get frustrated? Ofcourse, this is not the case with women who have put all efforts and dedication to their work. They have diverted all energy to something that has outputs, hence they are in a good position.

The women with confused goals feel lonely amd upset. They develop a thing with women below their age.
The insecurities grow heavy on them and finally end up making a mess showing themselves superior to women younger to them. The whole problem here is that we as women should understand that our brains should be occupied with something constructive all the time. When our ancestors said women should be married at early ages, they did have some sense there. The 12&13 was too soon, but for normal women including me should get married by 24, especially if getting in the arranged marriage business. The chaos between career fiasco and relationships failure results in loneliness. Loneliness is something all cannot enjoy and handle. Instead of torturing people around us and getting frustrated in our own lives, its time for the single and 27 to take a pause and think of where to go and concentrate there.

Rowing in two boats will drown you eventually.

This article is based on personal observations around me. Trust me, you should meet the 27 and single I know. Anyways, nothing personal, just an article I think I should learn from before I be a part of the league.

- By Anvi Mehta